Are we going to experience another Martial Law?

Two weeks back, in a meeting, we had a renowned PPP’s leader who was the Ex president of Punjab People’s Party also. He was considered a close friend of Bibi also. He was very active when Bibi was alive but Zardari has put them on thudday line or they might have spared themselves from the newly formed PPP. He is also the former President of our Org. We have a nice hello-hi. I never heard him saying any thing against PPP even after Bibi. He used to defend his party everywhere.

He was sitting next to me. Informal discussion started after the meeting. An old lady came from the back and sat near that PPP figure. They seemed good friends. They started talking with a very lower volume. I naturally tried to hear what they were talking about. Nahi nai mai dusrun ki batein chori se nai sunn rahi thi he knew that I was listening him.

The Lady: How is the politics of Pakistan going?
He: devastating
I was shocked
She: what about your party?
He: what party your are talking about? There is no PPP on the scene. It’s a new party now.
She: you are right. I was not expecting what zardari is doing.
He: You can’t imagine how much worse the situation is. Las night I dreamed that Army took over the country. I am still frightened. You never know what would come in very near future.

He said many things about PPP’s new leadership and the rapidly devastating condition of Pakistan. I couldn’t bear much.

I am really disappointed. It seems that we do not deserve democracy. Our democratically elected leaders cannot run the country. Why we always need Army to handle the bad situation? Why? I don’t want another Martial Law. No no…….

Whether it’s democratic government or a Martial Law, each time our country had to suffer and still suffering. Can anyone save the democracy?

Women's Day Special

I thought a lot what special should I write for the Women’s Day. It should have been meaningful and purposeful. But what it should be? Didn’t get any thing worthy to write upon. I don’t exactly know what I am going to write now.

Why does the world celebrate women’s day? Would celebrating a specific day for women change the condition of women, especially women of under developed or developing countries? Would this day help us in getting our due respect and rights? Has the number of abandoned and distraught parents been decreased after celebrating Mother and Father’s days?

Nothing would change unless and until people change their mindsets, their perceptions and their way of thinking. The hardest thing is to change the perception of the people. But change is persistent. Sooner or later people’s thinking towards women would change. It has already been changed but much more change is required.

I still remember an incident and I think it would remain glued to me forever. In our organization, we almost have 140 males and just 12 females staff members. Sometimes, we females feel that we are being suppressed by our male colleagues. They intentionally try to exploit us. They always jump in front of us while they see us going forward. Many of us including me were very upset, as we were not getting our due recognition. I myself felt and still feeling that most of the men do not digest women coming in front line. They do not leave any single chance to show women how much stupid they are and that they always put foolish ideas. And the same idea is considered best if it comes from any of their male counter part. They expect women to work behind them proving that there is always a woman behind every successful man. They think that they would do justice when they mention the woman behind them in the end.

The most interesting thing is that such conflicts never come in front of any one. They remain hidden and are not given any importance. People just take it for granted. Khair conflicts between men and women staff members were getting worse. A meeting was called to solve the conflicts between few colleagues (not between men and women). At the end, the head asked if some one else had any issue to be discussed. He saw everyone and I found myself raising my hand. I don’t exactly remember what I had said but my fellows told me later that it was an emotional speech. I just remember few lines: “To open door for women and letting them enter first and to empty your chair for women is not the standard of respecting women. We appreciate if you do it for us but we will be more than thankful when you recognize our work and efforts too. We females consider it more than worth when male colleagues appreciate our work and ideas as they do for their fellows”. That was my main context. I cannot explain the facial variations of my male colleagues.

After the meeting, they decided to boycott me socially. They started lobbying worse against us especially against me. They thought and still think that they regard women a lot and that I had some issues with one of them but I had criticized everyone. And that I should have discussed the issue with that specific person personally but not in the meeting. I (and my poor fellows) had to face severe propaganda. I might be wrong in my views but I spoke as a representative of all women. The interesting point was that they did not find themselves wrong in any case. The most cowardice of them was that they did not dare to talk to me directly during and after the meeting. Dar gaye shaid ……

There are some girls who enjoy men’s company more than women’s (it’s a fact OK). We are blessed with such a precious girl. All females were on my side after the meeting and she alone was in the male compartment. Hahahaha and she is still their biggest sympathizer. Although men do not leave any chance of hitting her too.

Khair it was all-discouraging but I got much strength emotionally and morally after that. I learnt how to present yourself and how to fight for your rights. No one would come for your help; you would have to take stand for yourself. The management has done some reforms which are really meant for our betterment. The crux of the story is how could the condition of women change until or unless men consider that women are in distress.

Dear Frankie

Last night, I watched a movie after a very long time. It was ‘Dear Frankie’. It’s nice and simple movie. The story was of a single mother Lizzie and her nine year old son Frankie who is deaf by birth. Lizzie is constantly moving from town to town with her son and her mother Nell escaping from her husband who is happened to be an abusive man.

Wanting to protect her deaf son from the truth that they've run away from his father, Lizzie has invented a story that he is away at sea on the HMS Accra. Every few weeks, Lizzie writes Frankie a make-believe letter from his father, telling of his adventures in exotic lands. As Frankie tracks the ship's progress around the globe, he discovers that it is due to dock in his hometown. He bets hi friend that his father would come to see his football match thinking that his father’s ship would dock his home town in those days. He also writes a letter to his father about it. Lizzie collects the Frankie’s letter from the post office and gets very upsets about it. The Ship is going to dock there for just a day. She does not want to disappoint Frankie and embarrass in front of his friends. She hires a handsome and good looking man for playing the role of Frankie’s dad for just a single day. The stranger spends one day on Lizzie’s request and other day on his own wish. These two days make the life of Frankie heaven. Frankie gets so much attached to him that he cries when the stranger leaves.

On the other hand, Frankie’s real father who is counting his last breaths and contacts Lizzie and requests her to bring Frankie. She refuses and just sends Frankie’s pic. His real father dies the other day. Lizzie gets very upset and feels guilty on what she has done to Frankie. She thinks of telling Frankie the real story. But she cannot tell him the whole story and just tells him that his father has died of sudden sickness. After few days, she collects Frankie’s letter from the Post office. She comes to know that Frankie knows the real story and that he loves the stranger so much and that he wants him to stay with them forever. Bara hi siyana bacha tha ans. While on the other side, Lizzie also feels some ‘Kuch kuch hota hai feeling’. The movie ends here showing both mother and son sitting on the beach without stranger. But I hope he would join them later. So a happy end.

The Secret Sun

Meet me by the sea again
Past the point the shoreline bends
Where the sand is soft and warm
And hangs upon your golden arm
And time won’t move at all
We were once the only ones
Who knew of the secret sun
Shining down where no one goes
In a place that no one knows
And time won’t move at all
And time won’t move at all
Many lives have come between
You and me, the secret scene
But back there in the orange light
There’ll be no fear of the night
And time won’t move at all
And time won’t move at all

I heard this song in Dear Frankie n loved it.

Disqualifying a disqaulified person

Just a simple question; who's qualified enough to contest in the election in Pakistan?
Are those people qualified who are currently running the country?

Yesterday a guy on BBC was telling that the decision is highly politicized and the detail of the verdict has not been releases yet. They had doubt regarding the decisions.

Despite all the charges which Sharif brothers have been faced in this case, where are their other corruption charges? No one has ever faced the complete sentence in corruption charges. One party comes in power and starts on the other party on corruption allegations. Then other party comes and repeats the practice. What the hell they are doing? When will we have the free judiciary to get us rid from all these culprits?

Salute to Pakistan Police

In our country, Police department is always considered a disrespectful and the most corrupted institution. But the reality on ground is that it is the police department who always faces the major loss in any incident. With such tiny pays and the burden of their whole families, they come out with their lives on their hands.

In the terrorist attack on Sri Lankan cricket team, police officers on duty did whatever best they could do. I salute all of them who have lost their lives and those who got injured.

May Allah rest the souls of the martyrs in peace and give the strength to their families.

Sri Lankans! We are sorry.

The day was started with very sad and heartbreaking news that some terrorists attacked the Sri Lankan team with automatic weapons, rocket launcher and hand grenades. It is learnt that some players got injured too. I can tell you how much I remained disturbed the whole day. I couldn’t even take my lunch, remained praying to Allah that the injured players would survive.

I myself feel embarrassed on this incident. Sri Lankan cricket team is the only team who took the chance to come in Pakistan. Everyone had refused to come over there. But they came second time also to play with us. Cricket lovers were very happy. But unfortunately, some terrorists have destroyed already damaged image of Pakistan.

Sri Lankans! We are very sorry and embarrassed on what have happened today. I know the word sorry cannot cure the terror and pain which you people have faced today. But think that the wound which we have gotten is more severe and deep and it could hardly be filled. I think we have lost every thing in this incident.

May Allah bless you and make things be right in Pakistan too. Ameen.